People grow and change, picking up new pieces along the way. Growing as a person – your way.
Growing as a Person and Gaining Interests
Throughout our lives, we each have long-term and short-term relationships with various people: teachers, parents, siblings, friends, lovers, and brief acquaintances. With everyone you meet, whether or not you consider them a stranger, they take pieces of you that you will never get back. Pieces that tell them who you are, and whether those remain relevant is up to you.
These people know things about you, have memories with you, and sometimes teach you something that you didn’t know about yourself. They may think they know you and have perceptions about how you interact with others.
The reality is that the YOU that you are when you’re alone will always be different from the YOU that you are when you’re with friends or strangers. The fact is that you’re always giving away pieces of yourself, but those pieces can change and grow. They can become false or more true than before. Only you know where all the correct pieces are.
That stranger you bumped into at the coffee shop when you were in a rush may think you’re rude, but they didn’t have enough time to get to know the real you.
The teacher you had in grade one may think you were shy and had trouble making friends. As time went on you gained confidence and became more outspoken. You have more friends that you can count, but your core group is all that really matters to you.
Your parents remember every detail about what you were like when you were a kid. Those details stay with you and sometimes you forget to explore who you are to keep being that kid your parents knew.
Your friends know your crazy sides, and you open up to them about everything. They know your deepest secrets, but they might not be secrets anymore as you get older.
A boyfriend, girlfriend, or lover has access to every intimate detail about your body and your innermost thoughts. They know who you were when you first fell in love, but may forget to pick up the new pieces of who you’re becoming.
You are made up of pieces that fit together perfectly. You pass around these pieces in your life to connect with others, and sometimes those connections falter. Luckily, you find new pieces to make you whole again when the biggest piece of your heart was left with the wrong people.
Through these interactions with others, you’ll discover new interests in books, music, movies, and more. You’re exposed to things you wouldn’t normally find yourself. With age, you pick up new pieces of yourself that you couldn’t hold in your youth.
When I was a kid, I read The Magic Treehouse Series and virtually everything by Dr. Seuss. Now, I read thriller novels by Michael Robotham or coming-of-age by Sarah Dessen.
I used to listen to only to music that was pop or county. With new influences, I’ve enjoyed songs in hip-hop, R&B, jazz, rock… pretty much anything. Music is music and it’s changing every day.
As a kid I watched movies and television shows that were animated and solely meant for kids. Now, I’m watching things like Criminal Minds and Peaky Blinders. Shows that I can understand and appreciate now that I’m older. (I mean, obviously I still watch animated movies. Who doesn’t love Disney?)
You Only Know the Pieces You Have
The people you have brief interactions with don’t know who you are, but the people who stick by you keep learning from and teaching you. You learn about yourself and have more power over which pieces you give away as you grow. You’re a puzzle which can never be solved because there is no final answer.
People are constantly changing, growing, maturing, learning. The people from your past own parts of you, but as you put distance between you, those parts don’t matter as much anymore. Keep picking up the pieces of who you are and make yourself feel whole. You don’t need others to define you, but they can help you discover the truth along the way.
Each person you’ve ever known has served a purpose in your life, whether it was temporary or permanent. Never regret the ones you’ve met and lost. Remember the positive outcomes of every experience and learn how to piece your next puzzle together. You are not lost throughout the world, but a presence that has remained or faded in every place you go.
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