What can we do when we’re tasked with handling rejection?
Success is difficult to achieve, but once you’ve done it, the elation goes through the roof. Unless you’ve experienced it yourself, not many people know the path of hardship it took to get to where you are. Handling rejection – is it easy? No. It is necessary? Yes!
That Dreadful Two Letter Word
No. This isn’t for us. Maybe you should try this instead. You can’t do this. It’s not what we’re looking for. Silence.
These are some of many responses you may hear throughout your writing life whether you are self-published or heading for the traditional route. Your work will not be meant for everyone. Maybe you’re just not talking to the right people. No is inevitable, but it’s not the only answer. Yes comes to those who keep trying and follow their greatest passions. You can’t have yes without the no and vice versa.
What can we do when we hear that NO? That crushing blow is devastating, but it’s not the end of the world. Here’s how writers can move forward from their defeats.
Allow yourself to feel your emotions. Scream into a pillow. Get your frustration out. It’s okay to feel upset when you’ve worked so hard and it doesn’t turn out how you want. Own it. Journal. Talk to a friend. Identify what you’re feeling. When you’re ready, get right back to writing.
Listen and Learn
Listen to the response you received if it was more than a ‘NO’. If a publisher told you your writing voice isn’t strong enough or the character wasn’t relatable. Are these comments based on personal preference of the one who read your book? Or is there valuable feedback here that can help you improve? Write one list of all reasons your book could be rejected because of personal preference or improvements required in your writing, then write the same amount of reasons why someone would love your book. Take the good with the bad.
Try Something New
Spend some time away from your book. Depending on how you’re feeling, if you don’t think you can handle another NO right away, it’s okay to go work on something else. Take care of yourself. Treat yourself. Give yourself time to recuperate. Work on another project. Do a menial task. Learn a new skill. Find new ways to challenge your writing skills. After you’ve had a break from thinking about it, read through your manuscript again and see if there’s anything you want to improve on it. If there is, keep editing. If not, do research for your next submission.
A Writer’s Writing Business
I’ve discovered it’s not so uncommon for authors to also offer services to other writers in editing, coaching, and critiquing. I’m one of them! Having a writing and editing business while also writing my own books can take its toll on me.
Not only do I deal with rejection surrounding my books, I have to handle building a business and finding the right clients who would like to work with me. It’s never easy when things don’t go my way or a client I wanted to work with doesn’t think we’re a good fit. But you know what? I’m learning something new every day about how to improve myself and my business.
Rejection and that dreadful ‘NO’ is a norm in everyone’s life. The trick is not to let yourself get discouraged or give up because of it. I know… easier said than done. I’m still learning how to do this myself. I’m passionate about my work and building my experience to reach the highest levels. If you’re passionate about the goals you wish to achieve, I say to always fight to succeed. It just takes that one person or that one moment to work out perfectly in order for your success to skyrocket.
I believe in you. You should believe in yourself. You have something worth saying, and you need to share it with the world.
Thank you for reading about handling rejection!
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